Visiting Marbella & Ibiza : Breaking free from a lost relationship, gaining a sense of self

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I wanted to share this 2nd travel post with you all. This post includes everything that makes a great holiday with the girls. I am talking SUN, SEA, SWIMWEAR, FASHION, FRIENDSHIP, CULTURE, FOOD & DRINK. All these elements are what make a great summer holiday. However, there actually was an alternative reason behind me on going on holiday & I will share with you what that is, along with what made Marbella & Ibiza so fun.

When you visit my About Me page you will read that my motivator behind my website is to inspire women to live life for yourself, be independent & ensure you add lots of adventure in your life. (Add me on snapchat: hollyann1990 to receive daily updates).  Instead of doing the usual travel post, I want to share with you my travels but what the experience actually meant for me.

Back in August myself & 2 of my closest friends decided to fly out to Marbella and then minus 1 of us went straight out to Ibiza afterwards. We all live in different towns so seeing each other when we can is always a lavish affair. Although I do love the autumn vibes, with the recent shocking cold weather I was reminiscing about my holiday & how far I have come in terms of developing myself.

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Let me explain more, 4 weeks prior to going on holiday I was fresh out of a very toxic, unloving and volatile relationship. This relationship over a year & half has crushed me as a person, destroyed my confidence, led too loss of security in my decisions & most importantly the love for myself. I was emotionally bullied into a relationship that looking back on it was never ready for or wanted. (There is so much more to this story I want to share with you, which I will write in a future blog post). Living along side another persons insecurity, robs your life and relationships of zest. We approach everything in a self-conscious, defensive and anxious way, it even causes anxiety disorders.

When I eventually broke free of the hold which was incredibly hard my mind was crystal clear. Despite being so unhappy for so long, I was addicted to the relationship & I went cold turkey & just cut all emotional attachment. For the 1st time in 7 years I was single, no one to answer to, no one to tell me what to do and so on… When I received a call from by best friend of nearly 10 years (check out her blog http://www.victoriahearn.com) asking if I fancied a holiday, my response was a hell yes!

Marbella

Marbella set the tone for rest of our holiday with its beauty & luxury. We were blessed with staying in a 5 star hotel, champagne on arrival, free access to the spa, beautiful surroundings and great food. The hotel we stayed at was http://www.monteros.com/en/ this hotel provided us with nothing other then supreme comfort. Additionally, with the hotel we had VIP access to La Cabane Beach Club & this place was simply wonderful. A short buggy ride from the hotel we were in even more luxury, with a ocean view lounger bed & more very good champagne.

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Ibiza 

Ibiza was the next destination as served as the perfect opportunity for myself and Victoria to spend quality time together. We live a few hours apart & have remind friends for a long time, enduring the best & worst of times. The highlights to this holiday was snapping in our bikini shots, relaxing with great food in the old town & hitting up Ocean Beach Club. We only had a short visit but was more then enough to set ourselves goals for the rest of the year & make plans to enhance our passions.

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Victoria actually give me the advice to start my website and that blogging was a great way for her to get over her relationship and now has turned it into a fantastic business opportunity. As soon i got back from Ibiza i set the motion in place and now i am posting on my very own website. FYI: Let your friends inspire you and don’t be afraid to try new things.

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It’s time to remember what it’s like to feel like you again!

When I resurfaced from my relationship & starting going through the initial grieving stages (as you do)! I was forced to reflect on everything & realised that because I was poorly treated throughout the relationship & after, I wanted to seek revenge. Its okay to be angry! Actually, feel blessed with experiences that life gives to you, as they only make you stronger & discovered new things about yourself. You move from being angry to thankful for the person you have become. I have now made my peace with what has gone before & feel totally invigorated by what is to come.

Never seek revenge or seek time to getting back at him: Devote time to finding yourself & uncovering the potential you have to inspire those around you!

When you break out of a relationship you must do something for yourself, you must learn to love yourself with no desire to seek approval from the ex. Forget them & move on. Seeking revenge will only drain you and take you away from repairing yourself. So, take time out with your friends/family have lots of fun, no matter how naughty it is.

My vision moving forward is to inspire friends & strangers alike, that i take comfort in knowing, that i am the life to their party and the calm to their chaos. This is why i have chosen to take on posting about my travel, fashion, health & wellness & relationships with a touch of fashion & beauty. All of these things make us who we are & should embrace them.
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