Recently, I have been reading some incredible journals, blogs and snippets of information about the importance of listening to your emotions.
How listening to your emotions and understanding why you are feeling that way, can dramatically encourage a positive mind set, supporting your mind from controlling you negatively.
The common negative feelings we can face on a daily basis are heighten when we are depressed and suffering from mental health issues, which then leads you to seek medical care to take medicine to support you. Additionally, these emotions can be so overwhelming you struggle to function and communicate to others.
Not understanding your emotions can lead you to communicate incorrectly and take actions that can damage you more then what you intend it to. Recently, I have been supporting those I care deeply about who are suffering from depression. I have been working with them to help them understand that communicating effectively to those who care about you, is so important. Being depressed or mentally ill does not give you the right to be hurtful, unkind, selfish, or self-absorbed, to those who are trying to understand and support in any way they can. In the long run if you choose to act this way, you will push people away and this is unhealthy for you.
Listening to your emotions is key, along with positive self-reflecting, not being in denial. This takes time to understand but before anyone can understand how to be there for you. You have to identify in yourself why you are feeling this way.
Types of overwhelming emotions and how you can learn to listen
Everyone always will face experiences in their life that are unexplainable and confusing. When this occurs emotions run high, sometimes communication runs low, the impact of words can be hurtful and it’s not necessarily what you mean.
When you have experiences in your life that make you feel any one of these feelings: Sadness, Anxiety, Shame, Guilt, Disappointment, Anger, Discomfort, Resentment, and Bitterness. Listen to your emotions, this will be an incredible skill to learn. If you do not have much experience with processing your feelings you can learn and practice.
Below I have outlined what sometimes these emotions can really mean.
Sadness: Is the depth of how much you care! You cry to release the pain of what may no longer be. This is a deep emotion and crying it out is the best thing you can do, once cried out you need to evaluate how & why did this happen.
Anger: Also known as passion expressed negatively, boundaries have been crossed, and something you have seen or heard has impacted you to your core. Instead of expressing anger, reflect on the perception of the situation and how you can make a positive change. Listen to anger, understand why you are angry, try not to express it and seek revenge, this will be a hurtful action on you and your mind.
Shame: This means you are listening to other peoples opinions and beliefs. Just re-connect with yourself and make sure you are happy and comfortable with the decision you have made.
Guilt: When you have done something wrong it is appropriate to feel guilt. However, guilt can be a common and sad emotion which contributes to agony, grief and loneliness. Guilt ultimately means you have compromised your own standards and that you are still living in people’s expectations of what you should do.
Anxiety: The fear of the future, we often feel anxiety when we are not in control of what is about to happen. You stop living in the present moment and fear of what could be, you simply need to do your best and let go. Calmly think what if this situation didn’t go right, what other positive actions could I take to help me. Whatever you do, do not keep thinking of the past and embrace what could be.
Disappointment: Is a feeling where you have tried for something and you didn’t give into apathy (also known as lack of interest, enthusiasm and concern). The feeling of disappointment is because you still care. Try not to waste your time feeling disappointed as your expectations are not always match by others.
Discomfort: When feeling this emotion you need to pay attention to what is happening to you right now, discomfort allows you the opportunity to make a change that affects you positively.
Bitterness: The most common feeling when you come out of a break up whether it is relationships of love, family and friends. Here you need to heal, as you are still holding judgements on yourself and others.
Resentment: You are living in the past and you are struggling to let go. This will also build up the other emotions I am sharing with you today. Resentment can lead to negative behaviour of seeking revenge. You may have feelings of actions you want to take to hurt that person. Simply here you need to let go of the past and let the present of your life make you happy.
5 Things to Quit Right Now
1. Trying to please everyone
2. Fearing change
3. Living in the past
4. Putting yourself down
Thank you so much for reading